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Tuesday, 07 July 2009

  • How to get past a womans defences...

        Here's an interesting story...

        A few hours ago I was standing in a  bar
    in Rockingham. I was standing near to the bar, looking around
    at the people, when the guy next to me starts
    talking to a girl he doesn't know. She turned and looked at him with a look that
    said "I don't know you, I don't want to talk to you, and you have no chance with me."
    The look on her face couldn't have been more clear. As soon as he started talking to her, she
    put up her defenses.

    The more he tried to talk to her, the more
    annoyed she got.

    It was painful to watch.
    Then things got REALLY interesting.

    The guy turned to me and started making
    conversation with me.

        He asked me how I was "doing" with the ladies
    at the bar. I told him that I had just arrived, and I
    wasn't particularly in the mood to talk to women
    at the moment... I was just enjoying my drink and
    relaxing.

    He then started to talk about how "meeting
    women was a numbers game" and how he had been
    "hitting" on women all night... but he didn't
    have any "luck" so far.

        We started discussing our different approaches
    to meeting women.

        I told him that when I decide to talk to a
    woman that I really find attractive, I am
    confident that I'll be successful with her.

        He kind of laughed and told me that meeting
    women was a game of luck, and if you wanted to
    win, you had to just keep playing the numbers...
    and hope you find one who likes you.

        Right at that moment, two cute women walked up
    to the bar. One of them was very hot. He
    looked at the hotter girl, pointed to her, and
    said "I like that."

        I said "Well, then go talk to her."

        He decided to go "order a drink" (in other
    words, he was going to go up to the bar and FAKE
    like he was there to order a drink, and then
    "accidentally" start a conversation with her).

        Of course, he already HAD a drink, so he
    fumbled around trying to find a place to put it
    down so he could walk up to the bar with no drink
    and not look like he was "on the make."

        It was pretty damn funny.

        Anyway, he squeezes in next to this girl, and
    tries to act like he's just there to get a drink.
    He then turns to her, and tries to start a
    conversation.

        What happened? Of course...

        Her defenses went up INSTANTLY.

        She said a few words to him, but then turned
    away from him, took her drink and her friend, and
    walked away from the bar.

        He came back over to me and made no comment
    about the interaction with her...

        I watched him try to talk to more women after
    that... all with the same result.

        Their defenses went up AS SOON as he started
    talking to them.

        This guy's theory of "talking to a lot of women
    until you get lucky and find one who likes you"
    was working pretty well...

        Except for the fact that he WASN'T getting
    "lucky" at all, and NO women liked him....

        One of the problems he had was not
    understanding this thing called "Sexual
    Communication."


    HITTING THE WALL

        Have you ever been in a situation talking to a
    girl, and you could just FEEL that she had her
    "defenses up"?

        Or have you ever been out on a date with a
    woman, and had a bad feeling in your GUT about the
    situation... and no matter what you did, the
    situation only got worse, and she seemed to get
    further away from you?

        If you're like me, then you've been in a LOT of
    these situations.

        In fact, I think it's happened to me so many
    times that I have "female defense radar." It's
    like I can tell INSTANTLY if a woman has her
    defenses up... and it doesn't feel GOOD.

        You've been there... one minute everything is
    OK, and the next minute she has flipped on some
    kind of force-field that is PERMANENT.

        You know what I'm talking about...

        And once the defenses are up, it's as if she
    has become a DIFFERENT person. And trying to make
    it better, only makes it worse.

        Always.

        That's called HITTING THE WALL.

        And once you hit it, there's no bouncing back.


    A WOMAN'S DEFENSES, AND HOW THEY WORK

        So what's up with that?

        Why do women have this "defense mechanism"?

        What triggers it?

        And how can we, as guys, get past it?

        Well, the reality is that a woman's defense
    mechanism is something that PROTECTS her. It saves
    her time. And it saves her headaches and hassles.

        You've heard me say that attractive women are
    approached ALL THE TIME by men. In one way or
    another, an attractive woman is CONSTANTLY
    approached and pursued by men.

        Women can't afford to spend even a FRACTION of
    their time with every guy who shows interest, so
    they use "time management" techniques.

        How 21st-century of them.

        One of these "time management techniques" is
    their defense mechanism.

        If a girl decides that she isn't interested in
    being with a particular guy... and it doesn't
    matter if it's within the first five seconds or
    the first five months... the mechanism kicks in.

        It creates an invisible wall that protects her.
    You can feel it. She can feel it. And even though
    neither of you can see it, you both know that it's
    more powerful than a real wall... because most men
    don't know how to get PAST it.

        I know that you've thought about this issue at
    some point. If you're like me, you've thought
    about it a LOT. Maybe even obsessively. Maybe you
    have even schemed and tortured yourself trying to
    figure out the magic way to get past a woman's
    defenses...

        Are you with me here?


    A NEW WAY OF LOOKING AT THINGS...

        What if I were to tell you that YOU are the one
    who actually controls her defense mechanism?

        And what if I were to tell you that all this
    time, YOU'RE THE ONE who's been causing women to
    put up their defenses, and shut you out?

        And what if I told you that looking for the
    magic way to "get past her defenses" was really a
    waste of time?

        What if I told you instead that the ULTIMATE
    way to "get past" her defenses was to NEVER CAUSE
    HER TO PUT THEM UP in the first place.

        See, the reality is that her defenses are a
    RESPONSE or a REACTION to something YOU are doing.
    YOU are the one who's doing things that kick off
    the sequence of events.

        In fact, if you think of it from this
    particular perspective, you'll realize that you
    REALLY ARE controlling her defense mechanisms.


    BACK TO MY STORY...

        Shortly after his "bad luck" episodes, the guy
    I was talking to in the bar walked away from me.

        I stood at the bar thinking of what he had just
    said and done... and how so many guys I've met
    think the same way.

        Right then, a woman asked me if I'd move over a
    little bit so she could order a drink.

        I said "sure", and turned sideways so she could
    squeeze in next to me.

        At first, I turned my back to her.

        After a minute or two, I turned back around,
    and started talking to her and her friends.

        I was teasing them and making fun, and
    generally being a pain in the ass.

        There were a total of four girls there
    together, and I was talking to three of them.

        I turned my attention to the quietest of the
    three, and started teasing her.

        I asked her why she was so quiet, teasing her
    about it, etc.

        Every time I asked her a question or said
    something, she either shook her head "no" or
    nodded her head "yes."

        No words.

        Finally, she held up her left hand and proudly
    displayed her wedding ring.

        She said "I'm married."

        I laughed at her and said "Wow, good for you. I
    guess if I was trying to pick up on you I'd be
    pretty upset right now... but I'm not, so you
    don't have anything to worry about."

        Now, the REALITY of the situation was that I
    was NOT trying to "pick her up."

        She was the least attractive woman in the
    group, and her personality was about as
    interesting as a Cristiano Ronaldo's.

        Her friends heard me say this to her, and they
    turned and looked at me with wide eyes.

        They couldn't believe that I had just said that
    to their friend, and they could tell that I was
    being VERY serious, and that I couldn't care less
    what she thought of me.

        I went on talking to these four girls for the
    rest of the night... about another hour or so.

        I mixed up the conversation.

        Sometimes I talked to one of them... sometimes
    two... sometimes three... sometimes all four.

        I teased them all, took the piss, called them
    all kinds of freaky-chick names, and generally
    acted like they were my four, bratty little
    sisters who annoyed me... but who I still loved (a
    little).

        By the end of the evening, I was sitting on a
    little couch with three of the girls.

        At this point, there were almost NO women left
    at this bar. I'd say the guy/girl ratio was about
    6 or 7 to 1.

        I could see about 30 guys standing around me,
    and maybe 5 or 6 women. And I had 3 of those 5 or
    6 on the couch next to me.

        At one point, two of them were on either side
    of me MASSAGING me at the same time. It was funny.

        Of course RIGHT AT THAT MOMENT the guy from
    earlier walked by, stopped, and looked at me. The
    look of shock in his eyes was priceless. He didn't
    even say hi... he just walked away.

        The evening ended with two of the girls kissing
    me, and one of them getting my number because she
    was going to be in my area in a few weeks and
    wanted to see me...

        Let's get down to the point...

        The reason why I was so successful with these
    particular women was because I didn't do what
    every other guy that they ran into did...

        I didn't trigger their DEFENSE MECHANISMS.

        They had time to get to know me... they had
    time to get comfortable with me... and I had
    time to spark all kinds of sexual tension and
    attraction with them.

        Now let me tell you how I did it...


    WHAT TRIGGERS A WOMAN'S DEFENSE MECHANISM... AND
    HOW TO AVOID IT

        I'm about to give you a VERY important insight
    into how women interact with men.

        Pay close attention to this. It's taken me a
    LONG time to figure this out...

        Women are VERY perceptive.

        They know what a guy is thinking by looking at
    his body language, and listening to his voice
    tone.

        Some experts estimate that women are as much as
    TEN TIMES better than men at reading body
    language.

        To most women, men are an OPEN BOOK.

        Guys have no idea just how obvious they are...

        And there's one particular thing that triggers
    a woman's defense mechanism faster than a chubby
    kid eats cake...

        It's SEEKING APPROVAL.

        In every situation with a woman, you can say
    WHATEVER you want to say in a way that either:

    1) Seeks her approval

    2) Doesn't seek her approval

        Think about it.

        You're either SEEKING APPROVAL... or you're
    NOT...

        And most guys ARE when they're talking to a
    woman that they're interested in.

        As I watched the guy in the bar walk up to
    women and try to start conversations all night,
    the ONE thing that was obvious to all who had the
    eyes to see, was that he wanted APPROVAL.

        He wanted the women to LIKE him.

        I guarantee you that this man was an honest-
    to-goodness certifiable SOOK... and every woman
    that he tried to talk to could SMELL it on him.

        On the other hand, when I talk to a woman, I
    avoid seeking approval.

        I make it clear, no matter what I'm saying or
    doing, that it doesn't matter whether or not she
    likes me... I couldn't care less.

        The more I made it clear to the women I was
    talking to, that I DIDN'T need their approval, the
    more they LIKED ME.

        If you want to get past a woman's defenses, the
    best plan of action is to NOT TRIGGER them IN THE
    FIRST PLACE.

        Now, the reality of this situation is that some
    women are walking around with their defenses
    already up. Maybe they're married, or maybe
    they're angry at men... or maybe they're just very
    shy.

        We live in the real world, and this is part of
    it.

        But in most situations YOU are the one who
    triggers the defenses. It's YOU.

        I have several friends who I've watched
    interacting with women MANY, MANY times... and
    these particular guys RARELY, if EVER get the
    "defensive" cold shoulder from women.

        Why?

        Because they're not seeking approval. They're
    just doing what they want, and being themselves.

        If you can spend an hour talking to a woman,
    and not seek her approval the entire time, you
    stand a DRAMATICALLY better chance of taking
    things to the next level with her.

        That simple demonstration of showing her a full
    hour of non-approval-seeking behavior and
    communication will separate you from 99% of all
    the guys that have approached her in her life.

        And the best part about this particular
    technique is that it's NOT MANIPULATION. In fact,
    seeking approval is far more manipulative than
    what I'm saying here.

        In fact, one of the reasons why women don't
    like a guy who seek approval, is because they
    INSTANTLY sense that the guy is using a
    MANIPULATIVE tactic.

        If you think through the situations that you've
    been in with women, you realize that this is the
    case.

        So stop seeking women's approval when you meet
    them.

        Stop it!

        Learn how to say things in a way that clearly
    communicates that you don't need her to like you
    or approve of you.

        Then learn how to be Cocky & Funny.

        When you can make a woman laugh while you're
    NOT seeking her approval, you have a powerful
    combination that sparks ATTRACTION.

        Which leads me to the VERY BEST way of all to
    "get past a woman's defenses."


        MAKE HER FEEL ATTRACTION FOR YOU.

        If a woman feels a powerful ATTRACTION for you,
    then the kinds of defenses that we're talking
    about here don't even come into play.

        Attraction is such a powerful physical and
    emotional response that it temporarily disables a
    woman's defense mechanisms...

        It's the one thing, if you know how to do it,
    that women WISH you would trigger inside of them.

        Once a woman starts to feel that magical
    emotional and physical response called ATTRACTION,
    the entire situation changes, and you start having
    the kinds of success with women that most men only
    dream about.

        And most women go through life WISHING, HOPING,
    AND DREAMING that they will someday find a man
    that can make them feel this amazing feeling...

        That man should be you.

    Laterz

    Irish

     

Tuesday, 23 June 2009

  • Questions that need to be answered.....

    These are just some questions that need to be answered and through talking to women this is what I have come up with...let me know what you think...

    Do women really want to change us..??

    YES - Not into someone entirely different though - think of it more as remodelling. Its just little things (apparently). They want you to learn to ask for directions, put your dirty socks in the laundry, work out more, ditch beers with mates for romantic evenings with them, remember their birthday and trim our pubic hair.

    Is this really a surprise? You would probably like them to shop less, cook more and be more amenable to blowjobs. Only thing is we are supposedly too lazy to do anything about it and women are not.....hmmmm

    Do they really NOT want us to solve their problems?

    YES - Women enjoy talking...(no surprise there!!) They are happiest harping on and on about the most trivial matter for hours. When they have a problem, they like to talk about it, analyse it and pick at it bones. When we jump in and "solve" the problem, we are robbing them of the chance to talk....and thats no fun to them....

    Do you really give a shit about the toilet seat left up?

    NO - Oh my God....I never thought this would be the case but apparently this just proves that they are dating a real man who is not going to acquiesce to their every whim. They will still bitch about it though, Why? Because they are walking contradictions and apparently that is something that we will just have to deal with....

    Hugging after sex. Come on now...Really?

    Okay, this was a quote from a few ladies "GET OVER YOURSELVES AND JUST FUCKING DO IT" You may even enjoy it, and after ten minutes when you are ready to go again, they might be too....

    Do you really talk about penises all day?

    ALL DAY NO - After several cocktails, yes....

     

    Something to think about...

    Laterz

    Irish

     

     

Thursday, 28 May 2009

  • I really am lonely....

    A little about me...I have lived away from home for around 17 years give or take as I served in the Security Forces and left home at 17 years old..now 34, I am STILL living away from home in beautiful Perth in Western Australia...and have done for the last 8 years...

    Now, for the first time in all of those years that I have been away from home, I am beginning to feel homesick....just recently in work, as I work with alot of English and Scottish people, there has been alot of talk about people going to the UK for a holiday....maybe this is it....

    I know that I am a guy and all that, but sometimes I wish I could be a girl for an hour and just sob my heart out...

    I miss my family but my life is here in Perth now......

    Sorry for being negative people but its just how I feel right now....

    I think I want, don't need, but want that special woman in my life to comfort me and tell me that things are gonna be alright, the only female in my life at the moment is my doggy, Milly, but she's a bitch...sorry Mils....but I love her to death.....

     

    Laterz

    Irish

Tuesday, 12 May 2009

  • Hmmm...listen up!!!

    Opinions on women….do I? Don’t I?

     

    Probably one of the most serious posts I have done to date as most of my posts albeit some truth in them, have been written with some kind of humour to get my point across…anyways….listen up….

     

     

    Have you ever heard of the proverb "Nice guys finish last?" There is an element of truth to it. Thats what most guys problems are. We try to be too nice. If we give a girl too much attention she'll pick up on that and it won't be a challenge for her anymore. Don't give her too many compliments or gifts because you are only going to raise her expectation level. The key is to be a little cocky and a little funny. Women can also sense desperation so don't try the direct approach. I would rather try to be a girls friend first and listen to what she says and catch her off guard with one of her interests as a surprise.

     

    Be a bit mysterious and nonchalant

    I just think believe in your self.
    And any girl would be lucky to have you.
    Trust me in the end girls get bored with that whole bad guy thing and realise that a good man is what they need.
    So just keep being your self and you'll find the right girl for you

     

    Don’t pretend to be something you are not, you are what you are, and girls will eventually see that.

     

    As a man, I cannot speak for women. But I would like to comment.

    I think that a better question is 'what can I do to be more attractive

    to women'. (If you really want to be able to predict who will be considered

    more attractive by some group of women, then you can stop reading now).

     

    If you want to be more attractive to women, I think the first thing you

    have to realise is that you only make small changes in yourself. You

    can't make yourself taller, shorter or change your basic personality.

    Don't waste time worrying about things you can't change.

     

    Another important point is that people pay more attention to

    attitude and personality than to appearance. You should try to

    be well groomed and keep in shape, of course. But if you are going

    to make a good impression, you are going to have to do it by projecting

    your personality, not by looking good.

     

    You want women to be interested in you, not impressed. You might get

    some attention by doing something impressive, but usually this

    attention is short-lived.  The most effective way to get someone

    interested in you is to show an interest in them. If you adopt an

    attitude that is accepting and open, and show that you are interested

    in the other person (by asking questions, and paying attention to her

    answers), you will seem very interesting.  Avoid speaking negatively.

    When someone hears you say negative things, they unconsciously fear

    that you will speak of them negatively. Try to get her to speak about

    herself. People have a great need to express themselves, and everyone

    needs someone to listen to them.

     

    Paying attention to someone and being a good listener will help make

    the other person interested in you, but if that is all you

    do, you will be taken for granted. To keep this from happening, you

    need to demonstrate some independence. Show that you have a life of

    your own. While you should keep the focus on her, when she talks about

    something in her life, you can briefly mention something in your life

    that is similar. If you do a variety of things in your life, it should

    be easy to appear independent. On the other hand, if you act like you

    are never too busy to drop everything to see her, and that as far as

    you are concerned there are no other women in the world, you will

    be seen as dependent. Dependency is unattractive.

     

     

    It all leads to the one thing that i firmly believe myself included has to put into practice….

     

    Confidence with women in general - beautiful, plain, smart, nice, mean, old, young - every kind of woman - is an unavoidable social skill which can and must be learned if what you want is the greatest intimate relationship of your life

     

    Peace out

     

    Irish….

     

     

     

     

Saturday, 25 April 2009

  • Dating tips...

    I am not really the best one to ask on dating tips, since normally I just go with the flow etc and see how things pan out but seeing as I am Irish or as some people like to address me "Ittttttttttttttssss Gary" I just thought I would write a few things and say how I think this will help men when they go out on dates......

    If you want to stand out from the shuffling hordes playing pocket billiards in the corner then try these few pointers...

    I firmly believe that I have said in previous blogs that women can make their mind up in an instant about a guy, whether they like them, are gonna sleep with them, or maybe as simple as dating them, you get the jist anyway....

    However, when you are at the pub, nightclub, whatever your first chance comes with a kiss...alcohol kicks in, you find someone as attractive as they find you and you kiss.....

    Try and I do mean try and not be too drunk when you go for the kiss because this could be the difference between you getting lucky for the night or going home alone....

    Many women, not all, but many women believe that guys that can't kiss, can't shag...

    I believe that anticipation before a kiss is hot...she will be able to tell that you are checking out her lips and imagining kissing her, when you kiss, be gentle, run your fingers through her hair and don't choke her with your tongue.

    I used to think that chicks melted over guys that were musically inclined until recently, you see you have to have the personality to go with it...and also I do firmly believe that the person that plays harmonica will be a lonely man....

    Most guys wonder what to wear when they go on a date too...as how you dress can say alot about you and your hygiene etc....and to be totally honest, we, as guys are so much luckier than women when it comes to choosing an outfit...

    We can wear formal (a suit) or casual (jeans and a t-shirt) or a combination of the two!!

    Movie date? Jeans Dinner Date? Pants and a shirt. Most importantly is that it is clean and ironed and sans plastic boobs.

    I have said in previous posts about why do most women refuse to sleep with me on a first date....the answer again to all of you is simply this........SHE LIKES YOU!!

    History has shown and even proven the if a women sleeps with you, we won't call....and they may want you to call, but having said that women can decide on the spur of the moment that they will do it anyway, again because they like you, best thing for you to do is to give them a kiss and go home...then you will leave them wanting more no matter what...Confused??? Me too...

    Good luck

    Irish

     

     

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